(This is how I was feeling some time ago….can anyone relate????)
I started back at work in September 2015 since giving birth to Kaleb in April 2015. He was only 4.5 months old when I HAD to go back.
FYI this article will NOT be a chipper one. In fact it will be me RANTING on and on about how the USA’s maternity leave is a JOKE and actually downright a disgrace.
Along with the many other mothers that basically have their babies ripped from their nurturing arms, I went back to work as a necessity. I was not getting paid and my family’s health insurance was cut off because I was no longer on payroll. So I went to the Health Plus office and tried to apply for medicade (temporarily just for the health insurance at least for my kids). I was denied because although I was not currently working, I am married and my husband makes “TOO MUCH” and we did not qualify.
Too much ????? are you serious???? They clearly do not consider that he now has to pay ALL bills on one income! Unfortunately we live in times where most mothers cannot stay home to do the most important job EVER and raise their children. Families need at least two incomes to make ends meet. I know in some cases I am preaching to the choir.
Ok, so medicade was not an option, Obama care was next. Again, based on my husband’s income (because I was no longer on payroll) The plans we qualified for were ASTRONOMICAL. Here is one example of the more affordable choice….$600 monthly premium and $6, 000 deductible for a family of 4!. This means that I would have to pay $6, 000 out of pocket until the insurance picked up any of the cost.
We could NOT afford this on ONE salary…but remember he makes “too much” ….sense my sarcasm here?!?!
Next we checked to see what it would cost for my husband to put us all on his insurance through his job (private company). Again another ridiculous price. For all of us to have very basic insurance, they would take $600 from his check every time he got paid. So this was even more unaffordable. There would be months we would pay over $1200 just to make sure we keep ourselves healthy?!?! Really America???
So the only option we had after exploring all avenues was for me to go back to work (I have a NYC job) where the health benefits are very good and little to no expense.
I was devastated. I had just had Prince #2 and was not ready to let someone else care for him knowing I was the best for this job. I wanted to bond more with him. I shared in a separate post that his delivery was very difficult and we had gone through so much to get him here. It was not fair that I had to leave him so young and for so long. I cried myself to sleep the week before I had to show up to work. I had so much anxiety (the physical kind) for at least a month until I got used to it. So much trauma I went through and It really should not have been this way.
One good thing I had on my side was that my little guy stays with my dad who is retired. So I know that he is getting good care. It helps me get through the day knowing my son is with the man who raised me. I can trust him and know my son is loved and being well cared for.
I also know that although the situation is totally messed up It is necessary for me to do. It ensures my family is covered and for them I will do anything. No matter the sacrifice and how it makes me feel, I will always make sure my kids have what they need.
Rant over! Please comment and share your “back to work …already” story and how you coped.