What? You want more than two children? You’re crazy! You already have your hands full!
This is a question and judgment many moms have heard. Moms who have more than two children and moms who have contemplated having more than two are frequently judged for their choice of growing their family. The larger the family, the more people want to impose their feelings and say out loud what they feel is best for that family. But who gives them that right though?
Large families were the norm at one time and a beautiful thing. Sure there is the hassle of siblings not getting along and the struggle to get them all fed, dressed, and cleaned and to school on time but who with children doesn’t have that struggle? There is another side to having a large family. You have best friends in your siblings, they know exactly what you are going through because they are living the same life. You have a lot of support and never lonely. Obviously there are exceptions to every family but what I’m saying here is that its no ones place to judge the size of your family.
This also includes families who only have one child. I love to hear people ask moms and dads, when are you going to have another one? Don’t let them grow up alone? (I hope you can sense my sarcasm). Really??? Sometimes, I mean MOST of the time it’s a good idea to keep your opinions to yourself! You literally have NOTHING to do with the upbringing of anyone’s kids.
I can’t leave out the single moms and dads! I think this is the group that gets “bullied” the most! Being a PARENT PERIOD is a difficult task and even more so when you have people breathing down your neck about how you are doing it. (**DISCLAIMER – in no way shape or form am I saying its ok to hurt/neglect or abuse your children. If that is your “style” of parenting get it together or I will be the first to call CPS on you if I see it**)
Here’s my question, why does anyone think that their opinions matter (when it comes to someone’s family size). How does it affect you? Sound advice IF solicited or IF you see the child in danger of being harmed if fine, but don’t impose your opinions or feelings on another’s life choices based on your preference. Use your words to encourage the single parent, to lift up the exhausted mom/ dad of three (or more), offer a helping hand instead of scoffing at someone’s situation. Love one another and show it through your actions and what you say. There is power of life and death in the tongue and we will all be held accountable for what words we chose to say.
Can you let people live? What do you think?